Relationship Quiz – What is your attachment style Posted on January 25, 2021December 5, 2023 by Dr. Lee Welcome to your Relationship Quiz - What is your attachment style As you complete this quiz, think about your current romantic partner or the last romantic partner you had. Keep that person in mind as you complete all of the answers. Don't over think it. The quiz is just meant to give you an idea of what kind of attachment strategy you developed as a result of your early experiences. As a child I had a caregiver that calmed and soothed me effectively when I became distressed upset or overwhelmed. True Not So True None I often worry that my partner will not want to stay with me. True Not So True None When my partner falls through on a promise, I can take it very personally. True Not So True None It makes me mad that I don't get the affection and support I need from my partner. True Not So True None I often view intimate relationships as dangerous? True Not So True None When my partner is out of sight, I worry that he or she might become interested in someone else. True Not So True None I have a tendency to neglect myself in the relationship. True Not So True None I was seen as the problem child. True Not So True None When my partner and I spend time apart I feel relieved. True Not So True None When my partner and I spend time apart I feel sad and lonely. True Not So True None I rarely worry about my partner leaving me. True Not So True None I often disconnect or dissociate in relationships. True Not So True None I struggle for a long time before I will ask for help. True Not So True None Sometimes romantic partners change their feelings about me for no apparent reason. True Not So True None People have complained about me being too controlling. True Not So True None My desire to be very close sometimes scare people away. True Not So True None I worry that I won't measure up to other people. True Not So True None I prefer not to show my partner how I feel deep down. True Not So True None I feel comfortable depending on romantic partners. True Not So True None I'm afraid that once a romantic partner gets to know me, he or she won't like who I really am. True Not So True None I often have periods of time or significant events that I can't remember. True Not So True None I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on romantic partners. True Not So True None When others approach me unexpectedly, I often have a startle response that is exaggerated? True Not So True None During a disagreement with my romantic partner I often feel the need to get away. True Not So True None It helps to turn to my romantic partner in times of need. True Not So True None I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners. True Not So True None I often struggle to feel safe with my partner even though a part of me knows they are trustworthy. True Not So True None I don't feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners. True Not So True None I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner. True Not So True None I believe most people are essentially honest and dependable. True Not So True None I often with that my partner's feelings for me were as strong as my feelings for him or her. True Not So True None I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my partner. True Not So True None It's easy for me to be affectionate with my partner. True Not So True None I often expect the worst will happen in relationships? True Not So True None My partner really understands me and my needs. True Not So True None My independence is more important to me than my relationships. True Not So True None I often experience unexpected extreme shifts in my mood (anger to joy, or sadness to happiness) True Not So True None I worry that I'm not attractive enough for my partner. True Not So True None I tell my partner just about everything. True Not So True None I have experienced deep longings to connect with others and then find myself wanting to get away from them. True Not So True None Time's up
